Allison Tate’s piece in The Huffington Post has made the rounds in email chains and Facebook posts. If you haven’t read it yet, it’s worth checking out here. As I was reading the article I was cringing at how many times I have critiqued photos of myself or my image in the mirror particularly the belly that after two c-sections and three babies will never be the same and yet I continue to beat myself up about it. The article reminded me of a piece I wrote for my old website, Boy Crazy, about Being Mom. Enjoy.
“Before you say it, I know this is an unattractive photo. I dream of having a beautiful photograph of my children all smiling and me with blow-dried hair and gorgeous makeup and clothes. Sadly, this is my family portrait. I can go days without showering (gross). My hair is always in a ponytail, and my wardrobe is pretty much glorified pajamas. But then I look closer. I am managing three children under three! Some days I do not know how I am doing it, and it might not always be pretty, but I am doing it.
While pregnant with my girls I started asking veteran moms and dads of toddlers and babies for advice. Parenting books can only get you so far. The best advice comes from moms and dads who truly get what it’s like to be rushing a sick toddler to the bathroom, while holding a baby, only to step barefoot in diarrhea and the clock only says 9am (that was our Friday).”
My dream is for Homegrown Friends to bring us together, to break down our insecurities and support each other on this parenting journey. I hope you will join me in celebrating the hard work we do every day.